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This is a psychology book on narrative psychological communication. Narrative psychological communication strengthens the universality of narrative therapy, which means that not only psychologists, but non-professional people, including parents, teachers, social workers, and all kinds of professionals, can learn and use such communication attitudes and skills to create all kinds of ideal relationships as long as they want. This book is interesting, professional and practical, allowing readers to understand the philosophy, theoretical assumptions, basic principles, basic attitudes, basic skills, advanced skills, etc. in narrative psychological communication.

Dou Aijun, nicknamed Ms. Doudou, is a Bachelor of Arts, Master of Education, senior middle school teacher, national second-class psychological consultant, full-time psychological consultant of Shanghai Teaching Experimental Middle School, instructor of Yuexue Youth Special Training Camp, long-term special EQ consultant teacher of Dr. Zhang Yiyun Youth EQ Summer Camp, and psychological consultant for a certain column of Jiangsu Satellite TV.
During her tenure as a language teacher, she edited and published books such as Qian Menglong and the Guide to Chinese Reading, Reading Changes Life, and Recitation and Speech.
In recent years, she has worked as a full-time psychological counselor, specializing in psychological counseling and psychological training in fields of narrative therapy training, child and adolescent growth, parent-child communication, etc. Her son said: “My mom is not only a mother, but also a friend, a rare confidant and life mentor.”

001 Preface—My glory

001 Chapter 1 Narrative is with you warmly—a brief introduction to narrative therapy

011 Chapter 2 Listening to stories and explaining narrative
011 Listening to the sound of the falling rain on the residual lotus leaves—postmodern philosophy
016 Seats—deauthorization
018 A four-year-old kid who loves visiting neighbors—de-labeling
020 Internet time limit—de-labeling
024 There is a way to sleep well—let go and be curious
026 From anxiety to self-confidence—cherish and cooperate
029 He kicked my stool—externalization and deconstruction
032 My son wants to transfer to another school—curiosity and deconstruction
035 Wanting to eat KFC in the middle of the night—accept and cherish
038 Singing cat and obedient rabbit—externalization of problems
041 Head stuffy is a little monkey—interesting naming
043 There is a problem called procrastination—externalization is loosening
046 Expectations of a single father—the charm of metaphor
050 Narrative helps me to overcome the fear of heights (1)—deconstruction of problems
054 Narrative helps me to overcome the fear of heights (2)—the charm of rewriting
057 Appreciate your power—tapping events with special significance
060 Be kind to my anxiety—externalization, deconstruction and rewriting

063 Chapter 3 Family narratives of Dou Aijun
063 The oleander ceremony
065 Swallows under the eaves in my hometown
069 My guardian angel
071 Hugging powerful and warm words
073 Grandma’s laba porridge
077 To my deceased uncle—say hello again to my deceased relative

083 Chapter 4 Family narratives of Burning Stone’s family
083 Mom said to me
093 A letter from future Yonghai of 60 years old to present Yonghai of 42 years old
097 A letter from present Yonghai of 42 years old to past Yonghai of 14 years old
101 A letter from future Mao Mao of 40 years old to present Mao Mao of 15 years old
103 Family narratives of Burning Stone’s family—events of rich and special significance
123 Witness and feedback

135 Chapter 5 Narrative interviews and witness
135 Burning Stone blooms like a flower
156 Mommy who combs Duo Duo’s hair
179 Fang Fang and the little white cat
202 The warm witness with Dou Aijun
225 Radish and ginseng of narrative

227 Conclusion: From the narrative spirit of Confucius