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Saying “No”, or you're inviting harm upon yourself!
62 Techniques to protect yourself, avoid awkwardness and complaint.

Refusing others can be really challenging! But do not refuse, you can only watch them hurt yourself!
Set aside guilt and master 62 easy-to-use, powerful techniques of refusal. It will empower you to decline requests with confidence and composure, freeing yourself from swallowing grievances!
No more internal “OH NO!” while facial “OH YES!” Say “NO” and be yourself!
Don't let shame get to you.

Do you often find yourself in distress due to others' requests, and fall into these troubles:
Constantly in the "Overly Nice" mode: Prioritizing others' requests and accommodating their needs, which, often at the cost of your own affairs, spends unnecessary money and time, and even disrupts your own life.
Consistently in the "Avoiding Conflict" mode: In order to avoid conflicts, whether you might endure unreasonable demands from others, but deep down, you are unwilling and undergoing unbearable pain?
Repeatedly in the "Self-Hurt" mode: Despite putting in considerable effort, you still can't meet the expectations of those making requests. This not only damages relationships and hurts feelings but also invites complaints, leaving you with grievances that are hard to express.

Conquering the demon of “I'm sorry” is equivalent to conquering the mindset of “afraid to refuse”.
This book helps you rebuild a brand-new self-confidence, teaching you to stand in the position of “prioritizing your own needs”, being courageous in refuse unreasonable requests from others. No longer letting others take your assistance for granted, no longer compromising, and rediscovering your own attitude towards life.

Top 5 refusal Technique with a high “Cost-Performance Ratio”.
Instead of suffering in silence, it's better to honestly say “No”!
Tailored for those who are kind-hearted and struggle to say “No”, this guidebook offers 5 key aspects and 62 secrets to help you confidently refuse others!

Preface Don't be a “Yes Person”
Foreword Saying “No”, or you're inviting harm upon yourself

Part One Refusing in a way that doesn't offend

Chapter One The "Third-Party" Rejection Method, Leveraging Other Forces to Say "No"
01 Refusing Those Who Value Prestige, You just Satisfy Their Self-Esteem
02 Utilizing the "Powerful Third Party" to Weaken the Other's Offensive
03 Quoting the Words of Someone in a High Position to Make the Other Voluntarily Give Up
04 Becoming a "Behind-the-Scenes Leader" to Exert Psychological Pressure on the Other
05 Using Your Spouse as a Shield to Make the Other Retreat
06 Identifying a Common Enemy as a "Scapegoat"
07 Shifting Responsibility to the Majority to Diffuse the Other's Attack Targets
08 Employing a Multi-Person Tactic to Speak "No" on Your Behalf
09 You're Excellent, but Your Company Is Not in Good Shape

Chapter Two The "Ice-Cold Psychological Distance" Rejection Method, Let the Other Quietly Retreat
10 Maintain a Polite Attitude to Make the Other Feel You Are an "Outsider"
11 Use the Concept of "Misfortune and Blessing" to Rationalize Saying "No"
12 Avoid Calling the Other by Their Name to Maintain a Cold Distance
13 Speak Illogical Statements to Leave the Other Unsure How to Persuade You
14 Proactively Say "No" to Block the Other's Opportunity to Attack
15 Repeatedly Hint at Certain Weaknesses of the Other to Make Them Lose Argumentative Grounds
16 Deliberately Nitpick Details to Sever the Psychological Connection Between Both Sides
17 Propose Consoling Compensation to Subtly Convey the Message of "No"
18 Use Soothing Words after Saying "No" to Prevent the Other's Retaliation
19 Diminish Your Self-Image, Implying to the Other That You Are Incapable
20 Avoid Using Excuses to Prevent the Other from Seizing an Opportunity
21 Utilize Standardized Responses to Close off the Other's Expectations
22 Create an Illusion of Intimacy, Forcing the Other to Say "Yes"
23 Induce the Other to Say "No" Through the "Socratic Questioning" Method

Chapter Three The "Flattering" Rejection Method, Trying to Get Agreement from the Other
24 Maintain Humility to Prevent Displeasure from the Other
25 Make the Other Feel That Being Rejected Is Actually a Good Thing
26 Praise the Other Continuously and Say "No" at the Very End
27 Induce the Other to Say "No" Themselves by Saying What he Likes to Hear
28 Respond to Complaints with Self-Pity, Triggering the Other's Empathy
29 Prompt the Other to Come Up with a Solution Themselves, Compelling Them to Give Up Voluntarily
30 Don't Reject Outright from the Beginning, Say "No" During the Process
31 Interrupt the Other's Judgment Logic with Off-Topic Subjects
32 Replace Saying "No" with "Vague Requests"
33 Say "Yes" First and Then Say "But", Making the Other Hit a Wall
34 Continuously Say "What to Do?" to Set up a Protective Shield for Yourself
35 Use Ambiguous and Elusive Language to Lead the Conclusion in the Opposite Direction
36 When Unsure How to Reject, Occasionally Mutter to Yourself
37 Gradually Shift the Focus of the Conversation, Leaving the Other Confused
38 Say "Yes" with an Exaggerated Tone to Convey the Meaning of Rejection

Part Two Protecting Yourself Without Saying "No"

Chapter Four The "Body Language" Rejection Method, Saying "No" with Zero Pressure
39 Pretend to Be Physically Uncomfortable to Block the Other's Persuasion
40 Actively Engage in Silent Contemplation, Conveying a Wordless "No"
41 Maintain a Poker Face to Sever Emotional Connections
42 Tilt Your Body and Gaze at the Other While You Do not want to Compromise
43 Constantly Change Postures to Confuse the Other's Judgment
44 Utilize Casual Movements to Convey Your Indifference
45 Stand Out of the Other's Line of Sight When Saying "No" to Alleviate Pressure
46 Avoid the Other's Enthusiastic Gaze to Reject Their Requests
47 Refrain from Displaying Hesitant Actions while talking
48 Maintain Distance to Avoid Being Persuaded Through Physical Contact
49 Ignore Things Offered by the Other to Cool off the Relationship
50 Amplify Your Own Presence to Make the Other Feel at a Disadvantage

Chapter Five The "Props" Rejection Method, Saying "No" in a Roundabout Way
51 Utilize Small Props to Expand Your Territory and Interrupt the Other's Conversation
52 Use Small Items from Your Pocket to Occupy the Other's Space
53 Play with a Pet While Listening to the Other Talk
54 Avoid Having Family Members Present to Prevent Becoming the Other's Prop
55 Make the Other Sit on a Hard Chair to Convey a Wordless Rejection
56 Sitting in the Central Seat Creates a Sense of Oppression for the Other
57 Use the "Backlight Effect" to Magnify Your Own Presence
58 Utilize a Table to Emphasize Status Differences and Silently Convey "No"
59 Saying "No" in the Evening Is More Likely to Be Successful
60 Use Attire to Convey the Message of "No"
61 Decline Dining Together to Prevent Forming a Close Relationship
62 Use Sounds from Elsewhere to Make the Other Feel Uneasy